So for a long time i’ve listened to the opening lines of my clients telling me the way they are, that they can’t change, their partners are xyz, that life has them on a trajectory that is ‘out of their hands’. In many ways the need to say this is just a mechanism of fear, if they have no expectations/possibilities, they won’t be disappointed. But the reality is anything is possible if your system is fully behind it.
Couple’s work is a set of dance steps that changes over the years: at times fluid, in sync, on point; at others jarred, out of rhythm and discordant. The discord is where the clients run: into their work; into their kids’ lives; into a substance; or into another’s arms. The irony, if it the latter, is that’s never the reason for why the relationship has broken down but so easy to have a tangible moment or event to throw the blame into.
But the discord is where the magic is, it’s where the friction is saying ‘notice this’, ‘deal with this’ ‘bring it to the forefront for your combined and individual growth.
Whatever the glue was that brought a couple together in the first place is never enough to sustain it through the years. We grow older, our kids/parents/friends grow older; our interests, our confidence, our passions, our bodies change. Our roles change, our fears and anxieties change. Everything is up for grabs and few people seek help quickly enough to get conscious to the unconscious drivers that are pushing for change, that are bored, that fear change, that fear talking to their partners for fear of creating upset, that fear death and transformation of any kind.
if you are feeling restless, numb, bored, deflecting feeling, hiding in work etc make a conscious change to reach out and get some help. Talking therapy is all well and good to know the patterns we fall into, however, the next step is taking active choice in changing those dance steps. As you change your steps your partner and your family will too. Nothing is impossible, nothing is not possible to say if it is said from the right place within you, and everything is healable.
We are at any one time a mostly unconscious ecosystem of variable energetics and changing internal climates. My consultation room gives space for the expression, sometimes incarnation, often letting go with kindness and thanks to those energetics that have previously been driving us or are waiting to be birthed. Hindu spirituality talks of the true self or the higher self but to be honest there is no hierarchy - we are all colonies of self, selves and disparate forgotten parts that need re-membering literally back to our greater wholeness.
Women who dream of flying are connecting back to their innate desire to be free and connected to their birthright of the numinous. Supernatural flying women date back from prehistoric times when people postulated the radical divide between earth and sky. We created myths and rituals to bridge this separation, incense and fire to create smoke to connect the earth to the heavens and evoke spirit. Women have always flown to take refuge from the concretised captivity of earth's gravity and the mental plane that, when overly lived in, constrains and constricts.
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Jane Kersel is recognised as one of the most distinguished embodied movement, yoga and consciousness teacher in London. She is a teacher’s teacher and was a much loved teacher at The Life Centre, Yoga Campus, The Bio-medical Trust + Triyoga (where she trail-blazed and invented their Hot yoga offering and the design of their studios). Now she works in her new vessel the Ethereal Gym teaching consciousness through the visceral body and private one to one and couples consultations sharing jungian analysis techniques and healing modalities.
- to see life as a spiritual investment as much a material one - invest in love, harmony, inspiration, creativity, beauty
- to commit to our own happiness - not waiting for someone else to sort things for us
- to create rapture - channeling venus energy - to live as the dream of the lover and mystic
- to let go of the patriarchal model and ask for the dream
It’s important in our work together that we never over-ride these ‘primary’ parts - the parts of us that are out there in the world functioning and getting things done. However, without the understanding and integration of both of these polarities - the doing with the being, the feeling with the thinking etc
To observe and do shadow work, we need the experience of being centered in a higher self. That is why our spiritual practice is so pivotal. Without space inside our minds to observe forbidden feelings and behaviors, they take over. When they do, we feel controlled and overshadowed by them.