"I must admit, I sometimes find it useful in my practice to delineate the various typologies of personality as cats and hens and ducks and swans and so forth. If warranted, I might ask my client to assume for a moment that she is a swan who does not realzie it. Assume also for a moment that she has been brought up by or is currently surrounded by ducks.
There is nothing wrong with ducks, I assure them, or with swans. But ducks are ducks and swans are swans. Sometimes to make the point I have to move to other animal metaphors. I like to use mice.
What if you were raised by the mice people? But what if you're, say, a swan. Swans and mice hate each other's food for the most part. They each think the other smells funny. They are not interested in spending time together, and if they did, one would be constantly harassing the other. But what if you, being a swan, had to pretend you were a mouse? What if you had to pretend to be gray and furry and tiny? What if you had no long snakey tail to carry in the air on tail-carrying day? What if wherever you went you tried to walk like a mouse, but you waddled instead? What if you tried to talk like a mouse, but insteade out came a honk every time? Wouldn't you be the most miserable creature in the world?
The answer is an inequivocal yes. So why, if this is all so and too true, do women keep trying to bend and fold themselves into shapes that are not theirs? I must say, from years of clinical observation of this problem, that most of the time it is not because of deep-seated masochism or a malignant dedication to self-destruction or anything of that nature.
More often it is because the woman simply doesn't know any better. She is unmothered.”
Clarissa Pinkola Estés - Women who run with the wolves: myths and stories of the wild woman archetype
A client came to me saying she had a dream where her best friend was flirting with her boyfriend in a very provocative way and as she watched the scene unfold she felt strangely voyeuristic to it and turned on. And the more her man was turned on the greater she felt it amplified in her too. We talked about her own sex life, what she liked/didn't, whether she initiated, role played etc.
The Ethereal Gym opens its ZoooooomieZoomZoom doors on Wednesday, February 2nd at 6pm (GMT) - it is a class of metamorphosis, magical realism and metaphysics. Each week we will focus and play in our own internal journey with the mentoring of the major arcana tarot archetypes designed by Niki De Saint Phalle from The Fool - 0 - beginners mind, the new, travelling light to The World - 21 - fulfilment - completion - wholeness.